Our last activity for the week invited the kōhine to see themselves through the eyes of others. Each girl wrote a series of "compliment koha" for every other member of the rōpū, sharing words of admiration, appreciation, and encouragement. Before long, journals were filled with affirmations such as "you are kind and bubbly," "I love your humour," and "I love how you bring everything you do to life." Kōhine naturally recognised and celebrated one another's mana.
While some compliments acknowledged appearance, many focused on qualities such as kindness, confidence, generosity, humour, friendship, positivity, and the ability to make others feel valued and included.
The kōhine then gathered their compliments and added them to their journals, creating a collection of reflections they can return to whenever they need a reminder of who they are and what they bring to the world. It was an opportunity to pause and consider strengths, gifts, and qualities that others see clearly, but often we find difficult to see oursleves
We were guided by the whakataukī:
Ko Hinetītama koe, matawai ana ngā karu i te tirohanga atu.
You are Hinetītama, the eyes glisten at your sight.
Our beauty and potential are extraordinary – own it!
Using the compliments they had received, the kōhine were invited to personalise messages by declaring, "Ko Hinetītama ahau..." before adding a strength, gift, or quality reflected back to them by their peers. In doing so, they were encouraged to embrace the beauty, potential, and mana that already exists within them.
By receiving and owning the affirmations offered by their peers, the kōhine practised what the whakataukī calls us to do: recognise our own extraordinary beauty and potential and stand confidently in it.